It’s often the case that elderly parents feel somewhat dejected. They’ve spent their lives raising up their kids, and then suddenly, those same kids disappear. They’re off to get their education, employment, get married, have kids, etc. Of course, all these things are fine and normal.
Still, for so long the kids were the parent’s priority, and in return, they’re often placed at the back of the queue when they grow up. It’s not right, is it? They might enjoy watching their detective stories on television or riding around in their mobility scooters, but in the end nothing beats a phone call or dinner invitation from their son or daughter!
Consequently, here’s a few reasons why you should always include your elderly parents.
They Raised You
Your parents have likely done a great deal for you. Even if you have mixed feelings about them, or they had a sporadic relevance to your life, there have been times at least where they’ve made an effort and done their best for you. Getting you through school, putting food on the table, a roof over your head – these are all examples of what parents must do. It all sounds very basic, but it all comes at a great cost, both financial and personal.
Therefore, one of the reasons to always include your elderly parents is to simply give back. You owe them that much, so do for them what they did for you. Show that you appreciate everything they’ve done for you, big or small. If you’re having a big Sunday roast with your own family, invite them round. Who knows, it could make their week and give them something to look forward to!
Unfortunately, elderly people are often thought to be most at risk of suffering from severe loneliness. When they’re less mobile, they obviously get lonelier than most people, and their social interactions are entirely dependent on others visiting them or helping them get to their engagements. Does this really sound fair to you?
If you include them, you’re turning things around for them here. It’s been said that the best gift that you can give to an elderly person is your time alone, so take that message to heart with your own parents. They need you. You should never underestimate the power of compassion and conversation, because both can literally improve peoples physical and mental health. Pick up the phone and invite them around.
They’ll Be Gone Soon
As grim and obvious as it might be to state, being elderly means one thing; the end isn’t too far away now. They’re in their twilight years, and their final few years, months, weeks or days should be spent with their loved ones. No one should die alone, or with conflicts and issues unresolved. Be there for them and help them go out peacefully and contently.
Moreover, you don’t want to live with any regrets either. Once they’re gone, they’re gone, and you won’t get the opportunity to fix things and see them more after that fact. While you obviously know this, sometimes this realisation doesn’t really hit home until funerals are being arranged. Buck up the courage now and do everything you can for them, you’ll be happier in the long run.